Why one DI college athlete decided to transfer, and her recommended on do's and don'ts for the process

October 15, 2018 marks the first day the NCAA adopted the new transfer portal, allowing athletes more freedom and autonomy to make a decision to transfer schools for their respective reasons. While coaches at NCAA schools have always been allowed this freedom and flexibility, student-athletes have historically been penalized for deciding to transfer. These penalties included having to sit out a year to adjust or even being denied a request to transfer by coaches. With the new system in place, student athletes are allowed more control over their collegiate career. For institutions, it “strengthens ethical recruiting with guardrails around tampering” (NCAA).

The new transfer portal works as follows: student-athletes who want to transfer should first talk to their coach or administrators about their intention to transfer. Following that conversation, they should talk with compliance to put their name in the transfer portal. An athlete's name is placed on the portal within two business days, and from there athletes can freely contact any college coaches and any college coaches can contact the athlete.

While the process is more streamlined, there is more to a transfer situation than the cut and dry business transaction. Feelings are involved with the athlete, coaches, parents, teammates, and others involved. Based on my experience as a DI college transfer athlete, I put together an athlete's guide on recommendations for what to do when considering transferring and how to handle the process effectively.

DECIDE

Coming to terms with wanting to transfer can impact everyone differently and realizing that you want to transfer may not be an easy process. For me, the decision took place over six months. I decided to put my academic interests first, as I wanted to pursue a master's degree that my current institution did not offer. A recent soccer athlete in the process of transferring said “I am not happy where I am. I didn't even think about transferring until a counselor brought it up as an idea.” She thought about it over winter break, talked it over with her parents, and returned for spring semester confident in her decision.

Deciding to transfer has many implications that you should consider. You should talk with trusted individuals in your life in order to sort out thoughts and feelings if it is something you want to do. These people can include teammates, parents, counselors, academic advisors, or anyone who can put your best interest in mind. If the decision makes you uncomfortable, talk it through with trusted individuals who can help you to sort out your feelings.

Related: Knowing When to Transfer

TELLING COACHES

The first step of the new transfer portal process is to tell your current coaches or administrators. Confronting people in power or those you trust can be difficult, especially when the news involved is not positive. To prepare for this, you should ask your head coach or assistant coaches you work with to sit down for a meeting. With all the meetings, it is essential to prepare beforehand. For me, I knew telling my coaches would be very difficult emotionally for both myself and the coaches, as we developed a close relationship in my three years under their guidance. To prepare, I wrote a letter to first thank them for the opportunity to compete under their coaching and for the school. In the letter, I then described my desire to transfer to pursue an academic interest that I felt was in my best interest and the reasons for doing so. For emotional support, I also asked my dad to be present at the meeting.

Preparation for this conversation is essential as it will help you to consolidate your reasons for wanting to transfer and express that verbally. Only you can truly know your reasons for wanting to leave your current school, so be sure the message on why it is precise and controlled by you. Keep in mind that while the coach may be personally happy for you making a decision that you feel is in your best interest, right away they may have feelings of shock and disappointment for losing an athlete from their program.

Related: 5 Transfer Portal Tips

COMMUNICATE

Having excellent communication skills is always an asset. In transfer situations, communicating with coaches and administrators will happen more often than previously. Be comfortable asking questions when you have them. Talk to your current coaches about what they want from you. They may ask you to not practice with the team, clean out your locker, or give back gear. Compliance administrators may need information from you to help process your transfer information. Coaches from new institutions will be contacting you to discuss the possibility of attending their school. Throughout, be true to you and your desires while being a good, transparent communicator.

RESEARCH

As a transfer athlete, you have already gone through the process once. You know how recruiting works. Coaches are looking at who you are as an athlete, as a student, and other factors to see if you are a fit for their program. While these coaches look at you, you should also take the time to research their athletic programs. Consider what factors are on the top of your list for picking a new school and what you need to be successful. You are getting a second chance to go through the process again, so make sure you are thorough in evaluating schools so that you can set yourself up to have the most positive experience possible the second time around.

With the transfer portal, schools can contact you. This does not stop you from actively talking to schools on your own. Ask yourself questions like “What are my dream schools?”, “Where can I be successful?”, “What do I want in an academic and athletic program that my current school lacks?” Asking these questions and more will help you to understand what you want out of the recruiting process to help you find a school that is a right fit for you the second time around.

Related: Why Athletes Must Know Their Rights Before Transferring

EGOS ARE INVOLVED

As mentioned earlier, only you can truly know your reasons for transferring. Each transfer story is individualized. When talking about your desire to transfer, make sure the story that is being put out is controlled and is yours. If media is involved, your story can be twisted so be aware that is a message you want to be controlled. Even among teammates or coaches at your current school, keep the information you share consistent. People may be upset with you or upset about the decision you are making. Try to not take this personally, as people may not be keeping your best interest at heart.

BE GRATEFUL

Being a college athlete is a blessing. Not everyone has the opportunity to be in your shoes. In a transfer situation, be grateful for the opportunities your current institution has given you. This includes the training, the mentoring, your coaches, teammates, administrators, the gear you received, and other connections and development made possible from being an athlete at that institution. Even if you are leaving on bad terms, try to not let the negativity of the situation taint the positive experiences that happened as a result of being an athlete at that school. While this may not be easy, approaching the transfer with a perspective of gratitude will not only help you, but also those around you who may feel hurt that you are leaving.

Related: 8 FAQs about the NCAA Transfer Process

The process will not be easy. When getting a second chance to make a decision, do not leave anything to chance. Be confident with your decision and make sure to keep those who support you close during the process. Ask for advice and trust your gut.

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* Originally published on March 18, 2019, by Monique Felix