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December 26, 2018

My Dad Emailed Colleges and I Lost my Scholarship

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Jenny, a soccer player from central Florida, had grown up with hopes and dreams of playing DI soccer- but when an injury sidelined her during peak recruitment season her sophomore year, she thought her dreams had been shattered.  

Her parents, extremely supportive and hopeful for their daughter, encouraged her to do rehab, and continue to play the sport she loves, even if it meant going to a DII school, or playing club at nearby UCF.

After months of rehab and an ever-waging mental battle with herself relating to if she should quit or continue playing soccer, Jenny decided to come back for her junior year and try to make something happen.  Jenny quickly picked up where she left off, and was garnering lots of interest from some serious DII schools.

She took some visits to the DII schools in the southeast and eventually decided to verbally commit to a school, in North Carolina.  Jenny loved the area, the school, and the other girls on the team. She felt that she could really make an impact and as soon as she set foot on campus she knew this was her home for the next four years- and it was not too far from home.  The school essentially checked all of her boxes- but the same can not be said for her dad.

Her dad felt that she was settling, giving up on her dream, and wasting all of the time and effort that he and her mom put into seeing her off to a DI school; so he emailed other schools about his daughter.  I need to mention that he was trying to be supportive- no parent ever wants to feel like their child is settling- but his actions ended up messing with her scholarship. Some of the coaches he emailed about his daughter, and how she would be an asset to their team ended up knowing the coach Jenny committed to playing for, to which they notified the coach about the emails that the dad had sent.  

The coach contacted Jenny and rescinded her offer, all because of what her dad did behind her back.  Because of her dad, Jenny was left back at square one and had to start the recruiting process all over again, with a red warning sign on her back from what her dad did.  No college coach wants to deal with an athlete that has overbearing parents, and Jenny had been lumped into that category.

After a few months making cold calls, and sending out her highlight video, a smaller DII school in West Florida offered her scholarship- though it was a significantly smaller amount than the previous school, Jenny felt like it was her best offer and agreed to it.  

Jenny, not only had to overcome a serious injury that could have completely prevented her from playing college soccer, but had to overcome her overbearing dad as well- and thankfully she did both and is enjoying being a student athlete close to home and in the Florida sun.